January 9, 2009 on 4:28 pm | By | In bluefreesky.com |
How much influence and/or responsibility does the father of an unborn/born child have?
My roommate recently found out she was pregnant. An ex of hers visited after just getting out of prison and off probation and did not pull out when he said he would. He left the next day an hour away due to his parole officer saying he could not visit her. Now it is one month later, she's pregnant and he rarely answers his phone (once or twice a week). He is off and on about whether he wants to have this child. She wants an abortion but doesn't have the ability to pay for it on her own reasonably. My question is how much responsibility and influence does this guy have on the child. He knows it's his but legally this cannot be proven until it's near birth/born. This guy is shady and most likely just wants to keep her around for a long time, but is also stupid because he works odd jobs at minimum pay and minimum hours and could not afford child support or even what a child needs for his life. So what should she be expecting from him in a legal perspective? She was considering to sue him if he does not help pay for things before birth and medical bills. I want mostly facts, spare me the opinions. Thanks!Basically, he's gonna have to step up as a man. He is going to have to pay to take care of this child. However it is up to her if she wants him around. You have to think about the child and if this person is really someone she want the baby to be around. My brother is basically the father to his girlfriends baby. The father didn't want to have anything to do with the baby. She didn't want any of his help so she gave the child her last name instead of his. However, if she does want to collect child support she'll have to be sure to use his last name. Sure she could take him to work and the child support will be automatically taken out of his check. However, I am not sure on if you can do that while she's pregnant or not. If there is a chance either her or him doubt he's the father then I assume you can't take him to court till you know for sure that he's the father.To the upbringing of a child it matters as like you said the Mum on her own may not have enough money to pay for her child and that may result in the child not being cared for as properly as a child who has 2 working parents.
He's responsible for that child for the rest of its life...no matter what...as he's the one who chose to bring it into this world.until the baby is born he has no responsibilities. tell her to go and try to get medicaid. the government helps in these situationsPLEASE EMAIL ME GODSEND20052@AOL.COM WITH ANY QUESTIONS IS SHE GOING TO HAVE HER BABY HE SHOULD STAND UP BUT MOST OF THEM WONT BEEN THUR IT EMAIL ME It's true she can not start getting anything from him unless he chooses to help. She will have to wait until a paternity test can be done then she can sue him for child Support and if she saves all the receipt she can get him for expenses. She can go on Medicaid if she lives in the us to help out and also have her go to wic. Its free food for her and the baby.well its as much his fault as her own. she shouldve used protection and if she tries to sue him that is what the judge will say. she can get on medicaid to help pay for dr bills.wic will also help her. she needs to do what she needs to do but WHY would she sleep with a shady guy who just got out of jail. Right now, she is on her own. If she has the baby she can sue for child support but probably won't get anything since he doesn't work steadily. As for paying for an abortion, as the father he has no legal obligation to give her the money. She should contact planned parenthood or a clinic. She can't rely on him for help. Hopefully this will teach her a lesson about the people she's choosing to be in her life. #If you have any other info about this subject , Please add it free.# |
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